Why having good self-esteem and your own autonomy is so important for your wellbeing Why having good self-esteem and your own autonomy is so important for your wellbeing.We have to be able to love ourselves before all else in order to be able to know who we are and what our vital force is like. We all have this force, which forms part of our self-esteemIf we manage to find this self-esteem, we can learn to live in the here and now, look after ourselves adequately and, as a result, look after others. It’s like the instruction the flight attendant gives you before takeoff, ‘If the oxygen masks fall down, put your own on first before putting them on to your dependents.’ And that’s what life is like, if we can’t manage ourselves emotionally, it’s much more difficult to deal with the situations and people around us. People come to therapy with an issue they need to resolve People come to therapy with an issue they need to resolve.The therapist accompanies the person on this journey. Often the person does not realise that part of the problem is that they are not in control of their own autonomy and self-esteem. In order to have good mental health, we need to own our actions, our emotions and our feelings. In this way, we can learn the tools to be able to handle all the challenges that life throws at us in a mature way. How we do this in sessions How we do this in sessions?We go at the client’s pace, guiding them to help them realise, little by little, what it really is they they want and need. We don’t always end up dealing with the original issue, or the client’s needs change depending on how the process develops. What’s really positive is that they learn tools to carry on with their life in a safe, healthy and calm way, with their newly restored autonomy and self-esteem in tact.